What is Safety?

What is Safety? Here is an excerpt from a recent Whole Heart Connection: Making Connections day. It was a revolutionary moment for us, and so I wanted to share it. The transmission is better if you watch the video while in your body, open and settled.  It’s followed by an edited version of the transcript, where I completed some sentences more clearly and spelled things out a bit more than I was able to in the video. So it's worth checking out both. https://youtu.be/YlU3syzhDp8 What is Safety? Safety, for many people, means "I won't get hurt." The problem is, we've all already been hurt, so it's too late. From then on, we never feel safe, because, "Okay, it does already hurt. Therefore I'm not ... Read more

The Engine and the Caboose Part II

The Engine and the Caboose Part II Top-Down and Bottom-Up Healing This engine and caboose concept (see previous blog, The Engine and the Caboose Part I) is related to Top-Down versus Bottom-Up healing. Top-Down Healing Top-Down healing means primarily connecting with The Light or The Absolute, identifying with that as completely as possible, and moving from that perspective. The Infinite is certainly the most powerful resource for a complete healing! The trouble arises when we insist on Top-Down healing methods only, and decry any hint of Bottom-Up (pathology-focused) healing.   In examples of the most extreme viewpoints, adherents of only Top-Down healing consider Bottom-Up healing methods to be a waste of time that prevents you from actually merging with the Infinite and achieving Enlightenment right ... Read more
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The Engine and the Caboose Part I

The Engine and the Caboose Part I How to be NOT Helpable In the context of healing and personal development, our experience is not necessarily a homogenous unity. It’s more useful to think of ourselves as being like a long train. The Engine Our engine is our leading edge—it’s us at our best. It’s our sanest, wholest, coolest self that we hope to be fully someday. Right now, though, it’s like a crescent moon of what we hope to become. It’s where we’re headed—but the engine of the train may emerge from a tunnel, or cross state lines, long before the rest of the train makes it to the territory that the engine has already passed through. My engine self is what moves all ... Read more
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The Adab

The Adab, or the Deep Politeness At the bottom of my blog, over the months I’ve mentioned my Perennial Medicine listserv as a better place to continue discussions than down in the comments section below. The comments section is nice for short little comments, but it’s not really a discussion forum. Instead, I issue a general invitation to you all to join the Perennial Medicine listserv. Having issued that invitation, I would like to share about the culture of that community—and by extension, the culture of the Me-First School of Global Healing. Sufism is an influence that has shaped my outlook on almost everything. One of the Sufi cultural influences that I most welcome in my community life is the practice of ... Read more

Post-Pandemic Clinical Complexities

Post-Pandemic Clinical Complexities I don’t think I’m becoming a worse herbalist—I think that there are more and more truly complex and challenging cases out there. I think that everyday life has become not just more difficult, but in many cases more paradoxical and internally contradictory, than ever before in my lifetime as a healer. I noticed the first major change after 9/11. There were many fear and shock-related patterns, and over time, as the fear and shock were not resolved in most of the population, this led to a broad array of underlying complications. More and more people showed up in my practice with a wider diversity of co-existing patterns of disharmony. For instance, before 9/11, most of my clients were either ... Read more
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Whole Heart Parenting

Whole Heart Parenting Below is a blog piece that I wrote about parenting.  Please keep in mind as you read it that even if you don’t have children, you are still ‘parenting’ yourself.  In fact, re-parenting ourselves is profound healing work.  Of course, even if you do have children, don’t forget to apply Whole Heart Parenting principles to yourself, too. Last weekend in a Whole Heart Connection mentorship class, we brought in pictures of our baby selves and used them as our virtual backgrounds on Zoom. It was so touching to see everyone against the backdrop of their original self.  It was deeply moving and made the practice of inner re-parenting more real than ever.  I’ll include here some of those images of ... Read more
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Living the Elements: Wood – Spring 2021

Living the Elements: Wood Spring Seasonal Resources Last spring, after my Wood music, arts, and culture blog, people wrote in with some fabulous Wood suggestions.  I discovered some new music that still carries me forward.  I'm grateful, and I'm looking forward to what folks have to suggest this year.  Meanwhile, I'm sharing the tunes, the art, and the poetry that have been on my mind so far this spring. I’d love to hear from you: Are you listening to, looking at, or reading anything that moves and heals and awakens your Wood element this spring? Please share in the comments section below. I’m always up for more healthy Five Element nourishment through the arts. Meanwhile here are some of my favorites, just ... Read more
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Vision: Two Eyes

Vision: Two Eyes From a Chinese medical perspective, every season has a Transformation of Virtue: an initial awakening emotion that, if brought in service of the Heart, is noble and healing for ourselves and the world around us. The emotional awakening for springtime and the Wood element is anger! Of course, anger can occur at any time of the year. But spring is a special time of awakening to the potential all around us—and when that potential is thwarted, grrr! Anger, when in service of the Heart, becomes Constructiveness, or Heroism. The Chinese character for virtue of Wood is 仁  The character shows a human, and the number two. It indicates a state which I refer to as being ‘two-eyed,’ a state ... Read more
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On the Phone, In My Body

On the Phone, In My Body Part Two As you read this article, how much of the rest of your surroundings are you tuning out? One of the “body lessons” of iPods, cell phones, iPads, and computers is an increase in our ability to tune out what’s going on around us in order to focus exclusively on the data coming to us through a small screen or earpiece. That’s an incredible skill—we’ve learned to be standing in the middle of a roaring subway while watching a little movie. We can be walking down a busy street having a delicate conversation with someone on the other side of the country. In our own homes, we have developed the ability to filter out ... Read more

On the Computer, In My Body

On the Computer, In My Body Part One Here you are reading a blog on a computer— Are you in your body? Stop reading for a moment just to check. What did you discover? If you are like most people, you may have found that you are craned forward, that you are barely aware that you even have a body, that your feet seem very far away (a sign that you are totally in your head), and that energetically you are being sucked into the computer. Hold it right here. Take your hands away from the keyboard, just for now. Later we will focus on writing on the computer while being in your body. For now, put one hand on your chest, one on your lower ... Read more
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