Welcome to The Me-First School of Global Healing

A blog dedicated to exploring the experience of healing in all domains

What is Safety?

What is Safety? Here is an excerpt from a recent Whole Heart Connection: Making Connections day. It was a revolutionary moment for us, and so I wanted to share it. The transmission is better if you watch the video while in your body, open and settled.  It’s followed by an edited version of the transcript, where I completed some sentences more clearly and spelled things out a bit more than I was able to in the video. So it's worth checking out both. https://youtu.be/YlU3syzhDp8 What is Safety? Safety, for many people, means "I won't get hurt." The problem is, we've all already been hurt, so it's too late. From then on, we never feel safe, because, "Okay, it does already hurt. Therefore I'm not ... Read more

The Engine and the Caboose Part II

The Engine and the Caboose Part II Top-Down and Bottom-Up Healing This engine and caboose concept (see previous blog, The Engine and the Caboose Part I) is related to Top-Down versus Bottom-Up healing. Top-Down Healing Top-Down healing means primarily connecting with The Light or The Absolute, identifying with that as completely as possible, and moving from that perspective. The Infinite is certainly the most powerful resource for a complete healing! The trouble arises when we insist on Top-Down healing methods only, and decry any hint of Bottom-Up (pathology-focused) healing.   In examples of the most extreme viewpoints, adherents of only Top-Down healing consider Bottom-Up healing methods to be a waste of time that prevents you from actually merging with the Infinite and achieving Enlightenment right ... Read more
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The Engine and the Caboose Part I

The Engine and the Caboose Part I How to be NOT Helpable In the context of healing and personal development, our experience is not necessarily a homogenous unity. It’s more useful to think of ourselves as being like a long train. The Engine Our engine is our leading edge—it’s us at our best. It’s our sanest, wholest, coolest self that we hope to be fully someday. Right now, though, it’s like a crescent moon of what we hope to become. It’s where we’re headed—but the engine of the train may emerge from a tunnel, or cross state lines, long before the rest of the train makes it to the territory that the engine has already passed through. My engine self is what moves all ... Read more
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Whole Heart Parenting

Whole Heart Parenting Below is a blog piece that I wrote about parenting.  Please keep in mind as you read it that even if you don’t have children, you are still ‘parenting’ yourself.  In fact, re-parenting ourselves is profound healing work.  Of course, even if you do have children, don’t forget to apply Whole Heart Parenting principles to yourself, too. Last weekend in a Whole Heart Connection mentorship class, we brought in pictures of our baby selves and used them as our virtual backgrounds on Zoom. It was so touching to see everyone against the backdrop of their original self.  It was deeply moving and made the practice of inner re-parenting more real than ever.  I’ll include here some of those images of ... Read more
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On the Phone, In My Body

On the Phone, In My Body Part Two As you read this article, how much of the rest of your surroundings are you tuning out? One of the “body lessons” of iPods, cell phones, iPads, and computers is an increase in our ability to tune out what’s going on around us in order to focus exclusively on the data coming to us through a small screen or earpiece. That’s an incredible skill—we’ve learned to be standing in the middle of a roaring subway while watching a little movie. We can be walking down a busy street having a delicate conversation with someone on the other side of the country. In our own homes, we have developed the ability to filter out ... Read more

On the Computer, In My Body

On the Computer, In My Body Part One Here you are reading a blog on a computer— Are you in your body? Stop reading for a moment just to check. What did you discover? If you are like most people, you may have found that you are craned forward, that you are barely aware that you even have a body, that your feet seem very far away (a sign that you are totally in your head), and that energetically you are being sucked into the computer. Hold it right here. Take your hands away from the keyboard, just for now. Later we will focus on writing on the computer while being in your body. For now, put one hand on your chest, one on your lower ... Read more

October 2, 2020

Online Health and Hygiene How many people have had the experience of spending too much time online, but not realizing it until later, when you stop? How many of us are having the experience, these days, of knowing full well that it’s time to get off the computer, but we can’t—it’s part of our job? I’d like to discuss this because our relationship with computer (and phone) usage is very important to everyone’s health during this time of accelerated online engagement. We need to learn how to be online in ways that are not detrimental to our health—and we need to be aware of when it is becoming unhealthy so that we can shift before we’ve depleted ourselves.  First, I would like to ... Read more

February 22, 2020

I'm white. Racism doesn't affect me, does it? I’m going to take a moment to write about a fairly new venture of mine, which I’ve been calling Whole Heart Whiteness. It has arisen in the context of the work I’ve been doing in Baltimore (and soon also in NYC) around healing interracial injury and pain. Most of that work, by invitation, has been with people of color. Now I am realizing how important it is for me to be taking this vital and life-giving work back to white-skinned people. Whole Heart Whiteness—a version of Whole Heart Connection especially for white-skinned people—is an opportunity to learn body-based skills and practices that allow us to explore important conversations about racism in a healing and ... Read more

January 27, 2020

  The Me-First School of Global Healing   Many of my students are familiar with what I call the “Me-First School of Global Healing.” For those of you who have never heard this phrase before, what does it mean? The Me-First School of Global Healing is two things. First, it is an embodied set of principles which I will detail at greater length below. Second, it is an actual healing school which I hope to be able to offer to serious students beginning in 2022. I’d like to begin this blog series with a good look at both the principles and the practicalities of a Me-First School of Global Healing, because that is the framework for everything that I say, and everything that ... Read more